Buddhism
The Buddhist philosopher Thich Nhat Hanh deals bluntly with the first reason you might be having trouble: You put yourself first—but you don’t love yourself enough. He quotes the Buddha: ‘The moment you see how important it is to love yourself, you will stop making others suffer.”
The Collaborative Habit, with Jesse Kornbluth (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2009), 14.
It isn’t the things that are happening to us that cause us to suffer, it’s what we say to ourselves about the things that are happening. That’s where the suffering comes from.
“Talking to Ourselves,” Shambhala Mountain Center, August 19, 2003.